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Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Keeping the Upper Hand - How to Have the Power in Any Relationship By Tina L. Jones

Do you feel like your man is always getting his way? Feel like you are putting everything into the relationship while he is sacrificing nothing? Are you under-appreciated? Many women feel like the men in their lives always have the upper hand. They have all the time in the world while a woman's clock is ticking.

To keep the power in the relationship you need to feel powerful. You need to have a lot of self-control and confidence in order to not come off as being desperate for the relationship. The key is not to give him all the power, don't immediately agree to everything he wants to do or everything he thinks. You're allowed to have your own opinions and your own preferences, and if he isn't willing to accept that, then the relationship isn't worth being in. You need to be strong enough to say no to him sometimes and put your foot down on things that are important to you.

Remember this doesn't mean that you should always say no or that he should always agree with you. Having control and power in a relationship doesn't mean having your guy be a slave to you. It means both of you working together and compromising to get what you both really want in the long run. You both need to be willing to communicate to each other and have the desire to make the other happy as well as yourself.

Having the power means being able to get him to compromise with you, and having him willing to work in the relationship as much as you are. The only way to get him to do this is to make him work at it. If you let him have his way all the time and always come running when he calls, there is no reason for him to work at making you happy, because he already gets everything he wants. You need to show him that your relationship is a partnership with both of you working together to make each other happy.

To do this you have to let him make the first move sometimes. Let him be the first to call and make the next date arrangements. Give him ideas of things you like to do and wait for him to offer them up as suggestions on his own. Or if you're always doing what he wants to do, tell him that the next time you go out you are going to do what you want to do and he'll either accept that in order to keep you or he'll walk away. If he does walk away, then he probably wasn't worth having a relationship with anyway.

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

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